Howie 899 #1 Posted July 3, 2019 Have not said much about this, but a year ago today was the funeral for my wife. She passed away June 28th after a short illness with pancreatic cancer. we were married just over 52 years. Has been a totally different year with her gone. I am doing ok, have not let it get me down. I always figured she would out live me., because I had a heart attack at 45 years of age. Her parents lived well into their 90's. No history of this in her family. Just showed me I don't know much about that subject. 13 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RandyLittrell 3,903 #2 Posted July 3, 2019 I feel for your loss and sorry you have struggled! I lost my Dad 10 years ago and I am a little better but I can get upset at the drop of the hat. I hope you can figure out how to get past this. I'm will to listen if you ever need that as well. Randy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZXT 2,401 #3 Posted July 3, 2019 (edited) I'm sorry to hear of your wife, but glad that you're doing well! There are many environmental factors that can contribute - I've had a few members of my family succumb to similar cancers and their parents lived to be old as well. Might have been a fluke thing, but what one is exposed to in their working environment can also play a huge role. Edited July 3, 2019 by ZXT Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pullstart 66,813 #4 Posted July 3, 2019 I’m sorry to hear @Howie, it sounds like you had the love of a lifetime. Being married for almost 12 years now, 52 doesn’t seem that far away.... the way life goes by. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tractorhead 9,212 #5 Posted July 3, 2019 Sorry for your loss. To find the right person, to go the Way of Life together, is one of the best thing that can happen in your Life. No other can feel your Pain for your loss as you did, maybe some can understand a bit. Lost my dad whien i‘m close to 30, he also develops cancer but he hide this info to anybody. He didn‘t want to touch anybody, that was the biggest fail in his life, because we had a fightful start. Especially in my youth, if we develop to be friends, was about one year before he‘s gone... before he didn’t Accept my Way of Life. There are sooo many questions they're unasked between us, happen so many things i like to show him.... while i‘m proud of no chance, this hurts me until now - more as any others. i only had one consolation, short before he left, we become Friends. 1 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ebinmaine 72,707 #6 Posted July 3, 2019 6 hours ago, Howie said: have not let it get me down. Good to hear... Keep that up. I'm sure your wife would like it to be that way as well. "Why cry for a soul set free?" (Robyn Rancman) 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lee1977 7,214 #7 Posted July 3, 2019 I know what it's like lost my wife to a stroke May 25, 2017. We were marred almost 45 years. My son was in the hospital at the same time with a second stemcell transplant . He is doing great now two years clear of cancer. I can't give any advice, just do the best you can. The sadness when you think about them will never go away and some bring tears. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Howie 899 #8 Posted July 6, 2019 Certain situations certainly do bring tears, and i am glad she did lay and suffer for an extended time. Have a friend that said maybe that was my miracle in all of this. I have just two kids and son and i have gone on some race track excursions. I like short track dirrt racing. Daughter and son-in-law have built a get away home on the lake here. Besides my WH tractors I service and repair mowers some. So i keep busy. I don't sit and feel sorry for myself over this, the Creator has plans I do not always understand but need to accept them. As has been said there is a hole that can not be filled after this many years. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
