lostmale28 0 #26 Posted March 12, 2009 Hey man, sorry to hear about your loss. I know its rough to lose a loved one. If you are on yahoo look me up at lost_male28 if you ever need to talk and just want someone to listen. You'll be in my prayers ! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fritz 1 #27 Posted March 12, 2009 thank you all. i have not learned much. i would like any one who can to come to the funural. i dont know when it is. my fathers wife has control over everything. it ticks me off. but it hurts more. everyone keeps saying she has control. i feel like im failing my father. i have not learned much. but my uncle says they have confirmed it suicide.................... i dont know whatr to do. Thank you for everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HorseFixer 2,012 #28 Posted March 12, 2009 Devin sorry for your loss! MJ's and my deepest condolences! Prayer sent! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pond195520032003 27 #29 Posted March 12, 2009 Devin, sorry for your loss :thumbs: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy da Bear 11 #30 Posted March 12, 2009 Kathy and I will be driving down from Michigan.... Don't worry Devin.....you shouldn't worry about what to do.... Your not failing.... I would think your father would be proud of how your handling yourself. Just try to be at peace..... Let us know when and where for the funeral in an email or pm. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whfan74 2,015 #31 Posted March 12, 2009 Devin, I am so sorry....please know that there are many people praying for you and your family. We all hope that you continue to contribute positively in our lives as well as many others. We are all thinking of you! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fritz 1 #32 Posted March 13, 2009 I am doing some what better. The funural is on Sunday. The Viewing is at 1-3 and the Funural 3-5. It is at Debaun Funural Home on Springhill Road in Terre Haute, Indiana. I would like anyone that can come to please do. Thank You. Devin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Operator 7 #33 Posted March 13, 2009 TDB- Mike I have a feeling you have big shoulders, can you bring condolances from us who can't make it? No matter how big we are, we all need a little holding up once in awhile. Now we need a proper emoticon--- Randy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bell 11 #34 Posted March 13, 2009 I'll be there Devin... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy da Bear 11 #35 Posted March 13, 2009 Randy......I don't know about big shoulders... But this is just the time when human beings have to come together and support another who needs it. Just like all of you did when my wife was ill. I already told Devin....we will be there for him... And I will bring all your thoughts and prayers with me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fritz 1 #36 Posted March 14, 2009 they had the memorial service for him at the prison. I am doing alot better. I cried so much then. Now it seems like I cant cry no more at all!!!! but I know sunday will be harder than today. I appreciate everything thatyou have all said. If any of you guys work for the federal government You have lost one of your own. I am going to try to write an obituary type thing on here to honour him if that is okay with you all. If it aint please tell me. I will probly do that tomrow. So please dont let me start working on it then not let me post it. Thank you. Devin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Duff 206 #37 Posted March 14, 2009 Devin, I'm not one of the Moderators, but I will step up and speak for what I hope is the vast majority of the members. Although we all met here because of our love for these red tractors, the stronger bond we share is we are all human beings passing through this life, each with his or her own challenges, triumphs, joys, and Lord knows, moments of incredible sorrow. I'd like to think that when this Forum was designed, wiser minds than mine realized this and created this area called "Non tractor related discussion" so we could get to know each other better, and to offer support, advice and consolation during tough times, as well as to share life's good times and accomplishments. So in my humble opinion, I think it is very much all right for you to post an obituary for your father here. I, and I am sure many others, would like to know something about the man you care so much about and helped to make you the man you have become. Another very important thing - real men do cry, and anyone who tells you otherwise either has a heart of stone or isn't being honest with himself. There's no shame in it. Today was rough, Sunday will be rougher, but you are showing us a ton of strength and character, and we know you'll get through this and move on to make your father proud of you. My faith tells me that my own Dad is still watching me even though he passed away a few years ago; your Dad will watch you, too. You have not disappointed him or let him down. I work with young folks every day, and I wish I could find more who have your courage and sense of decency. Never lose sight of your values or your dreams - you're on the right road. You remain in my prayers......... Duff :thumbs: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy da Bear 11 #38 Posted March 14, 2009 Duff....just about the same thing I told him in pm. But something else I would like for you to consider doing Devin. Copy and paste the obituary "link" here. Then all can go to it if they wish to. I would have done it for you....but that is something for you to decide to do. I wrote my father's obituary when he died. But it was not a typical one of sadness. I wrote about the man I wanted people to remember. So I picked an especially happy event I had with my father and wrote in great detail about that. Funny thing...minister asked the congregation if they could guess who wrote it.... and the smiles came my way and it made me feel better. Give'r a try.... But we will be honored by whatever you decide to write. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Operator 7 #39 Posted March 14, 2009 Nicely said Duff, All you guys Randy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buckrancher 2,673 #40 Posted March 14, 2009 devin sorry to hear of your loss you are in our prayer's Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CasualObserver 3,406 #41 Posted March 14, 2009 So please dont let me start working on it then not let me post it. Thank you. Devin, I'm sure I speak for all the mods when I say feel free to do so or as Mike suggested post the link. Whichever you feel up to. I think the fact that you want to honor your father is excellent, and you can obviously see there are a tremendous amount of folks here who support you in spirit. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rideawaysenior 25 #42 Posted March 14, 2009 Devin, I just saw the article in the Tribe Star. I'm very sorry for your loss. We are all here to support you and help you through this difficult time. Let your faith lead you here and lean on those you know you can for the support. As many others here have said, you are not alone. TDB is heading there and I'm sure will be a welcome friend to you. Hang in there, you will get through this. Your Friend, Jack Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bustedglass 1 #43 Posted March 14, 2009 Dear Devin, I can't be there in person. But, please know that I will be there in spirit. Hang in there, we are ALL with you .......... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KyBlue 652 #44 Posted March 14, 2009 Well, as so many others have said... even thou I can't be there in person, I am there with you in spirit. Thou it has been my experience that, that does'nt always help. TDB and others being there will be a big help thou I'm sure. Just remember that even thou we can't be there with you tomorrow, we all want to be. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
glenn27 64 #45 Posted March 14, 2009 I am doing some what better. The funural is on Sunday. The Viewing is at 1-3 and the Funural 3-5. It is at Debaun Funural Home on Springhill Road in Terre Haute, Indiana. I would like anyone that can come to please do. Thank You. Devin Sorry for your loss--and plse know that prayers are lifted.......... take care-- glenn Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
illinilefttackle 399 #46 Posted March 14, 2009 Sorry for your loss Devin-Everyone else has expressed my same feelings-Celebrate your Dads life-don't dwell on his death. Mourning is a complicated thing-let your feelings out-don't be afraid to ask for emotional help. Remember, your Dads blood flows in your veins-make him proud. When I lost my parents-the one thing that gave me more peace than anything-was to remember they are in a "better place" now. No aches and pains, no sorrow, just a sense of peace and tranquility. Best of Luck Devin!-AL Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sorekiwi 761 #47 Posted March 14, 2009 So sorry for your loss, Devin. Be strong, but remember its OK to cry as well. You've made a lot of friends here in a short time, you can lean on us anytime you need to. Mike Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fritz 1 #48 Posted March 16, 2009 I met Mr. Teddy Da Bear. He's really nice guy. I appreciated him coming to my dad's funeral. I am doing a lot better. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. It was a big turn out. If any of you all need anything I would do my best to help you out. Me and Mr. Teddy Da Bear went out to eat. We talked about horses and that helped me a lot!! Thank You Mr. Teddy Da Bear. Thank you Every one~!!!! Devin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy da Bear 11 #49 Posted March 16, 2009 Devin...it was my honor and pleasure to be with you on this day. However....I must point out.... Jon (Bell) came too. And there were about 8 other people there at the table when we went for a bite to eat.... And now for a serious side. It was really a moving experience for me to meet Devin and be there. I did not know what Devin even looked like. I asked somebody to point him out to me. Devin was with members of his family. This person told Devin that I had been looking for him. I could see Devin was very emotional about the day and rightfully so. But when I told him who I was......I could see in his eyes what he was feeling. He grabbed onto me with a man size "teddy da bear" hug and held on..... I think Devin was telling me.....he was so relieved that I was there. I was really glad to be such a help. Devin is one in a million. And conducted himself so well at the service. His dad would have been really proud. It was a wonderful service with military honors. Minister was a very strong and stirring speaker. I met gdpudge, Devin's friend. I also met Devin's girl.... Oh man guys! Devin really knows how to pick em! She's great just like Devin. So glad I could be there for ya Devin......but man my buns are sore from sitting.... Was about a 500 mile round trip....I wouldn't have missed for anything... :whistle: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butch 194 #50 Posted March 16, 2009 Glad to see something nice came out of this sad day. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
